5 Tips to Gain
people struggle with low confidence. It can be so low as to be painful and hold
a person back from doing many things in life.
The longer you do not address the lack of self confidence, the worse things will
get. It becomes a vicious circle of thinking poorly about yourself and thinking
others think poorly of you. It begins to affect everything you do just as though
you had put on dark glasses - it colors your world.
Gaining self confidence is a process that can take some time, but is certainly
worth it. How can you build on it? It is a matter of changing the messages you
might have been given as a child, and your self talk now.
Here are some tips to gain confidence, feel better about yourself and your
situation in life.
1. Listen to what you tell yourself.
Much of what we say to ourselves, when we have low self confidence is negative.
Catch what you are saying to yourself and turn it around to something positive.
It may take a while, as it becomes a habit. Just start listening and then use
the second tip.
2. Use positive self talk.
Talk to yourself in a positive way, even if you need to talk to yourself outloud.
This can be anything from affirmations, to thinking positively about your
accomplishments. This helps gain self confidence.
For example, when learning something new: Maybe you say "Man, I am stupid. I
just can't get this". Change that to: " I have learned many challenging things
in the past (then list a couple), I see other people doing this, and I can learn
3. Make A List of your good points and
Come on, you DO have some good points, and you have accomplished some things.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
Take some time to write a list. This will get it out on paper where you can see
it. Maybe you have never really taken a look at your good points, or
accomplishments. Pat yourself on the back figuratively. Good job.
4. Reference Your List
Put your list where you will see it every day. If you don't want other people to
see it, how about putting it in your sock drawer. Every day you get clean socks
and can remind your self of your positive aspects to gain self confidence. If
you don't mind other people see it, put it in a prominent place. Put a mini one
in your wallet to refer when away from home.
Wherever you put it, start your day out by reading the list over. Read it again
in the evening.
Change your list as you need to. You may think of new positive aspects of
yourself, or be able to add to your list of accomplishments.
5. If you start to feel down or overwhelmed, give
yourself a talking to.
Everyone goes through
things in their life, what ever brought your self confidence down, is not often
permanent. It will change, or time will go bye and people will forget.
About the Author:
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tips today to develop more confidence and be sure to request your free report
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for more tips. Don't suffer from low self confidence any longer!
Licensed Psychologist Ph.D. Candidate
(Health and Geriatric Psychologist)
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