Daily Minutes That Will Improve Your Marriage
Dr. Beth Erickson
you are like most married people, you work, take care of your children, worry
about paying your bills and staying healthy, and spend a lot of your "free time"
on laundry, grocery shopping and home maintenance. Working on your marriage and
strengthening your bond as a couple may not even make your to-do list.
But what if I told you that devoting just ten minutes a day to your spouse can
produce magical results?
As a marriage and family therapist, I know how important this "couple time" is,
not just to husband and wife but to children who gain when their parents are in
a happy and stable relationship that centers on them and not on their children.
Everyone has ten minutes to spare, whether at the beginning of their day or
after they come home from work to reconnect with their spouse for what I call
"the daily magic ten minutes." Doing so will set the remainder of the day or the
evening right for everyone in the family.
Couples with toddlers and very young children can do this too. Of course, they
will need to make sure their children are safe when they plan their alone time.
If your children are slightly older, you might make this new habit into a game.
I urge parents to tell their children playfully, "Unless the sky falls in, or a
whale eats you up, or there's blood, please don't interrupt us. Mommy and Daddy
need alone time. But we'll be done in ten minutes." Put a timer where they can
see it, and your kids will know when the time is up. If you have children who
are old enough to watch their siblings, you can pay them to baby sit while the
two of you go off to seek a quiet place to chat with each other.
Also, See 10 Magical Daily Minutes That Will Improve Your Marriage Page #2
About the Author:
Dr. Beth Erickson is a marriage and family therapist, radio host, book author
and developer of "The Best Part of Your Life" program for executives,
entrepreneurs and their spouses. Dr. Beth has appeared on NPR and in Cosmo, USA
Today and many other national media.
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