Daily Minutes That Will Improve Your Marriage
Dr. Beth Erickson
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Daily Magic Ten Minutes Rules
You and your spouse are taking the time you deserve and
need in order to reacquaint yourselves as spouses and as people once again - and
not as parents or employees. As a result, certain topics are off-limits. No
talking about what the children did that day or what happened at work.
This is precious time you are taking for yourselves, perhaps in your bedroom
with the door closed, perhaps over a cup of tea or a glass of wine.
Talk about whatever you want. If the ten minutes allotted turn out not to be
enough, pick up the discussion again the next day right where you left off. Or
contract for more time later in the evening.
Some topics you might want to explore together as you get used to this new habit
are: books you want to read, trips you'd love to take, hobbies you would like to
pursue, purchases you would like to make, thoughts about where you would like to
live when you retire, and what you might like to do when you reach retirement
Asking open ended questions of each other will keep the conversation going. Then
you both are sure to learn information about your spouse you didn't know. You
may even discover that you are not the expert on your spouse you thought you
were. For example, recently, my husband told me his favorite sport was baseball.
I was quite surprised, because he is a diehard football fan and season ticket
holder. Now when he talks about baseball, I listen more intently because I know
he is sharing with me on a topic that is close to his heart.
Whatever you talk about with your spouse, I hope you have fun with this new time
together. Sooner or later, children leave home. And when yours do, you will find
that your empty nest will not be a problem. Instead, it will present a
continuation of your ability to deepen your relationship with your best friend,
the person you married.
About the Author:
Dr. Beth Erickson is a marriage and family therapist, radio host, book author
and developer of "The Best Part of Your Life" program for executives,
entrepreneurs and their spouses. Dr. Beth has appeared on NPR and in Cosmo, USA
Today and many other national media.
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