the key to a successful relationship? Some might think that's the million dollar
question. Sometimes it's just the simple things, that we easily forget or think
are unimportant that hold the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Read
through the helpful tips below on how to make your relationship go the distance.
1. Without quality time together, your relationship will not survive. Aim to
devote at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when the two
of you spend time exclusively together.
2. You both want to feel secure within the relationship. A good relationship is
built on compromise and a lot of give and take from both of you.
3. Often those little things that first attracted you to your partner can turn
into nasty annoying habits. Learn to love your partner warts and all. Don't try
to change them into something they're not, after all you fell in love with them
just the way they were.
4. Money is one of the top conflicts between most couples. For the relationship
to work, you need to address your finances and maybe even work out a budget.
5. Learn to argue well. Never say something to your partner that you wouldn't
want to hear said back. Just remember, the one good thing they say about
arguing, is the making up afterwards.
6. Communication is vital to all healthy relationships. Listen to your partner
and avoid blame and judgment. Don't let your emotions dictate your behavior.
Remember just talking things over can help you to both have a deeper
understanding of each other.
7. Sort out your sex life, it may start to go downhill over the years, don't
just accept it. As soon as you notice it, address it with your partner and work
out why, and what to do to bring back the passion. Maybe one of your prefers
more sex than the other. Why not experiment with new ideas in the bedroom. Role
play, dressing up, or maybe take your sex life out of the
bedroom and try new places. The introduction of marital aids into the
relationship can also help to spice things up. Whatever you decide, remember
communication is vital.
8. Try to keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell your partner
how much you need them, but don't get to dependent on them and cling to them all
the time, as that can make your partner feel trapped. On the flip side of this,
don't allow your partner to think you don't need them, by going or doing things
without them. Try to keep a happy and healthy balance
between the two.
9. Learn to forgive. If you know you will never forgive your partner over
something important, and feel the trust can never be regained then give
yourself, and him a break and start again, with someone new.
10. Don't ever think that going to counseling is a sign of a failed
relationship. It can turn a bad relationship around and can also turn an average
relationship into an excellent one. More and more people are turning to
counseling today than ever, it shows you are both prepared
to try and make things better, which can't be a bad thing at all.
The fact remains, that whether you're dating or married, relationships are hard.
It takes 100% commitment from both of you. However, healthy and long-lasting
relationships are achievable and many couples have proven just that. Not
everything is always going to be perfect but if you both choose to make it work
then it can. And remember it's the little things that you sometimes do that can
go a long way to making your relationship work.
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